tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post7344894196949707924..comments2024-03-08T02:51:53.512-08:00Comments on Eat Love Procreate: Is Age Really Just a Number?Emilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-9054258249546206662013-06-11T11:40:55.348-07:002013-06-11T11:40:55.348-07:00God yes. My mom had me (her first and only) at ag...God yes. My mom had me (her first and only) at age 41. Back in 1971-1972, of course they didn't do IVF or things like that. I was just her lucky baby. She never told me anything about difficulty getting pregnant or anything-- and she passed when I was 17 so obviously we didn't have those conversations back then. Anyway, I thought if I got started by the time I was 40 I'd be fine... and I got started "early" at 38! What a shock to read all those statistics. I wish, wish, wish I'd known I needed to hurry instead of lollygagging.<br /><br />Sigh.Georgettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08705282002904234217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-88567460461849720482013-06-10T13:07:47.941-07:002013-06-10T13:07:47.941-07:00Hi Shay! Welcome and thanks for reading! :)Hi Shay! Welcome and thanks for reading! :)Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-51766690057008658532013-06-10T13:04:37.573-07:002013-06-10T13:04:37.573-07:00Thanks mama! Yes, Halle Berry...I was watching her...Thanks mama! Yes, Halle Berry...I was watching her in a recent interview and she says, "This pregnancy was a total shock to us!" The interviewer with a confused look says, "Oh really?" I could tell the interviewer was confused as if she knew she'd had to have help at her age. Then Halle says, "Well, yes because we just didn't think it was going to be possible anymore." <br /><br />Um yeah, she made it sound like she got pregnant by accident or something, and I'm 99% sure she had to do IVF. Comments like that from celebrities blur the lines to what it's really like to TTC in your 30's and 40's. Drives me insane, because that is what the public hears and doesn't know any different unless they've been educated themselves or had a friend go through fertility treatments.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-48530904347795691482013-06-10T07:27:50.076-07:002013-06-10T07:27:50.076-07:00#1 New follower!
#2 Happy Birthday! (belated)
#3 Y...#1 New follower!<br />#2 Happy Birthday! (belated)<br />#3 Yes, i feel the pain of turning 35 and still not having any tiny human beings running around... and yes, if i had known, i would have thrown out the BCP a LONG time ago. SIGH.<br />I'm excited to follow/catch up on your TTC story... we are doing our first IVF this summer. :)shayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03343022560947651822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-33057337127420155512013-06-07T18:38:55.870-07:002013-06-07T18:38:55.870-07:00Happy Birthday my friend!!!
I love that you wrot...Happy Birthday my friend!!! <br /><br />I love that you wrote this post because I completely agree with you!! I think the more information the better, and it is healthy to be well informed. I always say I don't like to make decisions until I have all the information, but when it comes to fertility education I think a lot of information is lacking. It is all focused on preventing unwanted pregnancies, and hardly anything on infertility. I posted about how women's fertility declines with age and my 29 year old best friend said that was the first time the thought every crossed her mind that her time was limited. Not to mention we see so many famous people (like Halle Berry) having children late in life and we assume we can all be so lucky!<br /><br />Great post :) Gypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-91432946637838081042013-06-06T16:39:45.906-07:002013-06-06T16:39:45.906-07:00Well aren't you sweet! Thank you thank you tha...Well aren't you sweet! Thank you thank you thank you!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-22726296355565437822013-06-06T16:39:20.097-07:002013-06-06T16:39:20.097-07:00Hope the group went well! We will keep the sun shi...Hope the group went well! We will keep the sun shining brightly for you here in Austin. It's supposed to be sunny and mid 90's all week. A little hot, but gorgeous! Enjoy your family this weekend!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-81246232396696816912013-06-06T16:37:43.644-07:002013-06-06T16:37:43.644-07:00You know what? It does seem like the only women I ...You know what? It does seem like the only women I know who had a real head's up from a doctor were those diagnosed with either PCOS or endometriosis at a young age. I guess it's the "unexplained" people with no real issues that really get caught off guard the most. <br /><br />And yes, there should be more warning about using BCP's for so long too. Some people have no problems coming off of it, but a lot do. I was on it for 10 years before stopping at age 30 and I swear it's like my body forgot how to even make hormones on it's own.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-13342980934989461552013-06-06T13:32:33.346-07:002013-06-06T13:32:33.346-07:00Hi! I wanted to email you about the post you left,...Hi! I wanted to email you about the post you left, but didn't know your email! (wasn't sure if you would go back and check if i commented on it). I do know of that website, how cool she wrote a book too! That is so awesome she started that at Joel's church!<br />It is definitely a need in all churches! I'll be in your town this weekend :) Yay for austin!Team Harrieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00917069105126428150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-86594439446647974912013-06-06T08:14:28.784-07:002013-06-06T08:14:28.784-07:00There are so many things I want to say about this ...There are so many things I want to say about this post. First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss and for the fact that you have to deal with this infertility stuff in the first place. It's such an ugly, cruel disease. What you said about teens and birth control is so true. I absolutely think there's a way to teach women about fertility and age without encouraging teen pregnancy. When my doc discovered my PCOS at age 15, I was put on birth control...for nine years. Sometimes I wonder what sort of impact all those years of bc had on my fertility. But I did appreciate the fact that my doctor told me right off the bat that I'd likely have trouble getting pregnant. I'm guessing she assumed I wouldn't be on of those girls who would take that info and decide it was okay for me to have unprotected sex...and she was right. But knowing that pregnancy might not come easily for me was really a game-changer. My husband and I started trying to conceive before we were really "ready," knowing that we didn't have much of a choice. And then we pursued clomid after only three months of trying on our own. I'm really grateful that my doc had that straight talk with me.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15069220262683215373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-45934342673153023952013-06-05T20:24:34.796-07:002013-06-05T20:24:34.796-07:00Just wanted to let you know I nominated you for a ...Just wanted to let you know I nominated you for a blogging award! http://frozenoj.blogspot.com/2013/06/super-sweet-blogging-award.htmlFrozen OJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14131711839046100355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-65421524138239722142013-06-05T09:07:27.617-07:002013-06-05T09:07:27.617-07:00Yes, my first RE told me I was "young still&q...Yes, my first RE told me I was "young still" but my current RE has never said that at all. Having had a low AMH reading I think changes the ballgame slightly, although I don't put full stock into that as a determining factor either. Those silly age charts just scare the pants off of me, but older women do encourage me as well. Thanks for reading Amie! :)Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-43469422463908901492013-06-05T09:05:50.215-07:002013-06-05T09:05:50.215-07:00Thanks lady! I do agree that some issues are just ...Thanks lady! I do agree that some issues are just present even at a young age. I am sorry you are dealing with such terrible endo and I know it's a thorn in your side no matter what the age. I think on some level I feel like some of my issues were present even if my 20's (blood clotting, etc.) but I guess if I would have known about them at 24 vs. 34 I would have had a whole extra decade to learn how it could affect things and the clock wouldn't be ticking so loudly while I took a course of action. <br /><br />I looooove the idea of giving the TCOYF book to our daughters. That is the type of education I'm talking about!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-71954854462806485522013-06-04T06:13:24.576-07:002013-06-04T06:13:24.576-07:00Hi I just found you blog and am excited to follow ...Hi I just found you blog and am excited to follow your journey :) My hubby and I are both 34 and I worry about the very same thing all of the time. We were 33 when we first saw our RE and he said we were still young so I hope he is right! I'm just encouraged that I see many women still get pregnant around our age and a little older.Amiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04738442092989090297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-68609391594640109482013-06-03T16:29:35.535-07:002013-06-03T16:29:35.535-07:00Happy Birthday! I'm glad you had fun hanging o...Happy Birthday! I'm glad you had fun hanging out with your friends, it looks like you all had a great time! Also glad everything's a go with your FET.<br /><br />I'll be surprised if I make it to 35 without a hysterectomy so age related fertility decline has never been something I've worried about. <br /><br />I definitely think there needs to be more education on fertility in general. It's wrong to say don't, don't, don't without also saying when you should and giving the information necessary for that. I have only ever been with my husband and I hope for that for our kids, but I plan on giving any daughters we have TCOYF after they have their first period anyway. You should never be afraid to educate people.Frozen OJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14131711839046100355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-44190797900747260782013-06-03T12:58:37.241-07:002013-06-03T12:58:37.241-07:00I think everyone needs a break from the forums now...I think everyone needs a break from the forums now and again, no matter what stage you are in. Sometimes I feel like a newbie and I'm glad there are wonderful ladies, like you, to help me along the way. I'm glad you're finally on your way with this cycle!<br /><br />Oh, and the age and fertility thing. My mom had all 5 of her kids in her 30s, no problems, no losses, all natural deliveries. So I was naive enough to think I may have inherited her fertility. But I didn't and neither did my sisters, all have had one kind of issue or another (and they have all TTC in their 20s). It sucks because my issues are directly related to my age, but I can't really see a way we could have started TTC any sooner than we did. But I also though starting at 30 was still early. I'm not really sure what the solution is as far as education, but it would nice to see something. Where I am from (UT) they teach abstinence-only sex ed and most get married very young so everyone is TTC in their 20s anyway, which makes infertility an even more taboo subject because the social norm is that everybody has a lot of kids, in their 20s, still in college, etc.John + Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09345302065526958786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-44979837075766869972013-06-03T11:20:16.877-07:002013-06-03T11:20:16.877-07:00Very good points Kharini! I can see how, even if y...Very good points Kharini! I can see how, even if your mom told warned you, you thought she just wasn't up with the times. I think celebrities have had a huge effect on people waiting longer, and that is just too bad a clearer message isn't sent out to the larger public. All we see is the happy ending!<br /><br />I am really hoping we get some better options for women who aren't ready to conceive yet, even though they may want to take advantage of their fertile years...just not married yet, etc. Egg freezing will be a great option for those who want to be proactive once it improves more. I know it's available now, but it's just not all that reliable with unfertilized eggs as it could be. I'm really hoping we see improvements in live birth rates for IVF with frozen (unfertilized) eggs in the not too distant future.<br />Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-3816683906695381642013-06-03T11:07:24.698-07:002013-06-03T11:07:24.698-07:00Happy belated birthday gorgeous! Love your neckla...Happy belated birthday gorgeous! Love your necklace and flowers, you got a sweet hubby, lucky girl!<br /><br />I had been told many times how fertility declined with age and my mom repeatedly told me that my eggs wouldn't just wait for me for whenever I felt like having a child... I just kept seeing all this celebrities and people all over with young children in their 40's and I thought my mom was just outdated and that I would be fine like everyone else. What an idiot! On the other hand, at 35 I was able to produce 17 to 22 eggs and many chromosomal normal embryos up to age 39, I know I'm not the norm, but if it wouldn't be for other issues, issues I would still have at 20, I would have a child by now. And probably same with you. You do make good embryos, you may have had this same problem in your twenties... <br /><br />But I see your point. Education is needed. But then what? What if you are not ready for kids? Is like some of my girlfriends, they do know of my struggles and how getting pregnant can be hard, but something in their lives is preventing them from having a child at the moment, not married, not stable, not financially ready, etc, etc. Do you just have them because you are getting old? <br /><br />But yes, I still agree despite of my rambles, everyone needs to know that fertility does decline with age. Even if the only difference that it would make is to stress about it.kharinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06760406074795967083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-68921203407653645562013-06-03T10:19:11.477-07:002013-06-03T10:19:11.477-07:00Exactly! I mean, I guess I'd heard it's ha...Exactly! I mean, I guess I'd heard it's harder when you're older, but then I also have friends who had kids easily in their 30's. Everyone wants to throw in those stories of the aunt who got pregnant in her 30's and 40's...if she can do it you'll be fine! Thanks for the bday wishes. Hoping you are right...sure would be a nice little gift this month. Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-90069439996368595032013-06-03T10:06:23.124-07:002013-06-03T10:06:23.124-07:00Personally I had heard how much fertility declined...Personally I had heard how much fertility declined... but it never sank in... I always thought that with all of the advances in new technology having a baby in my late 30's would be a breeze. still... I am glad that you are going to be able to do an FET soon!! I am hoping you will have a slightly late birthday present. Baby Dust!! Egg Timerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09343035493124233553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-25766839910714068892013-06-03T08:32:26.052-07:002013-06-03T08:32:26.052-07:00It's nice to take a step back and forget about...It's nice to take a step back and forget about infertility isn't it? Hope you had a nice breather. Wishing you all the very best with your upcoming cycle too!!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-80360293351107130882013-06-03T08:29:21.706-07:002013-06-03T08:29:21.706-07:00Yeah, OB's need to be better too. My OB knew f...Yeah, OB's need to be better too. My OB knew full well when I was super fit that I hadn't had a period in almost three years. She knew I wanted children someday and this was ages 30-33. The only thing she told me was, "Whenever you're ready you'll probably just need to gain a little weight." HahahaEmilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-50072744694540266522013-06-03T08:24:31.082-07:002013-06-03T08:24:31.082-07:00The significance of birthdays definitely change on...The significance of birthdays definitely change once you're past 30 and TTC. I never understood this "clock" thing people use to talk about in such a joking way. Well I do now and it aint so funny!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-62270463375863189912013-06-03T08:19:20.205-07:002013-06-03T08:19:20.205-07:00Good point Amanda! Learning when that fertile win...Good point Amanda! Learning when that fertile window happens is just as important to prevent pregnancy as it is to encourage it....again something I didn't fully even understand intil age 33. Yeah, I feel pretty dumb now.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7052836858232611779.post-71923206531992463502013-06-03T08:13:37.984-07:002013-06-03T08:13:37.984-07:00I know right...no warning given on this little hur...I know right...no warning given on this little hurdle of life!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.com