Sunday, September 2, 2012

Letting Go of Control & Making Room for Positivity

The really powerful thing about blogging and being connected with people through the internet, is that just when you least expect it, someone else will help lift you up or deliver a message you needed to hear yourself through their own words. I woke up to read a friend's blog today, and it was exactly what I needed to hear.

She mentioned how important it is to be aware of the story we are telling ourselves. I am a firm believer that what we focus on multiplies and I think that most people who know me consider me to very positive overall. I've created vision boards for the last few years to activate the Law of Attraction, and I believe they can help you direct your energy in a positive direction. Here is my current one, which hangs on the wall in our future nursery. I think I want to make a baby, what do you think?

Well, reading the last couple posts in my blog, you'd probably think I'm some sort of a negative Nancy. I have admittedly been having a rough patch as of late, because doubting thoughts have been taking up space in my psyche more than I'd like. The confidence I've been instilling into my body the past 6 natural cycles had grown so much, but recently seems to have dwindled, and I know exactly why. It's because I finally got to know what my body was doing, and now it seems to be doing something different, especially after I got the +OPK and no ovulation. Well, from now on, I am going to try to be OK with it when my body does something different.

Giving up control is really hard for me when it comes to my own health. I am very protective when it comes to my body, so putting medicine into it and then having a result I didn't expect tends to scare me. Well, I need to learn to give up a little more control. This is something that is out of my hands. My husband is constantly reminding me that everything is going to work out. If I'm going to see an RE, I need to let her make decisions on my behalf and not worry about every little aspect. Sure, I want to become pregnant more than anything in the world, but laying awake at night worrying about whether or not I'm going to ovulate this cycle is not going to make it happen any sooner. I am going to start taking this with more of a "one-day-at-a-time" approach.

“Sometimes,' said Pooh, 'the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.” I agree with that 100%. If something I want is going to be taking up so much room in my heart, I need to make sure the thoughts about that thing are positive. It's funny how quickly your attitude can change by just a word or two from a friend, and so Amber, thank YOU for giving me that today.

This week, I will be looking at my vision board more often. I will be journaling to my future child more. I will not let my doubts get the best of me, and I will try my best to just take everything day-by-day.  No matter what obstacles I face this week, I will remember that it's nothing we can't handle together. I will not let negative doubts take up space in my heart. I have a lot to be grateful for, and I will be better about focusing on those things.

What do you do to stay focused on the positive and fight doubting negative thoughts from taking over in your own mind?


  1. I read your post today and I thought I need to be more positive about this journey! Sometimes you need some one else to open your eyes! And that is what you did for me today!! Thank you!

    1. It's contagious!!! So glad it helped you. Now it's your turn to pass it on! :)

  2. I love your vision board!!! It's beautiful and makes me smile! I'm so glad what I wrote helped you out. We all draw support and strength from each other and I love that!! Also, please don't worry that your blog has been negative lately. This is part of the process. If you go back to when I first created my blog it was nothing but doom, gloom, and despair. It happens to all of us. Yes, I'm positive and hopeful now, but this doesn't work out the way I'm dreaming it will, I'm going to need you guys to pick me back up and remind me of my story. But for now, there's a really good chance for both of us this cycle! +OPK, how exciting!!!!! Chang with me now BFP, BFP, BFP, BFP!!!!!

    1. Pom pom's in hand here and chanting has commensed! Thanks Amber! :)